I was reading this article on Lifehacker.com and was thinking about the problem of making new friends in middle age. Actually, I’m not sure I see this as a problem, but the article indicates that it is probably more of a problem than I realize, which isn’t really all that surprising, i suppose.
The article talks about the different ways to meet people, and I think I have the answer… Brew your own beer and invite people.
It works. Everyone wants to know how it’s done (perhaps not everyone, but then, those folks might not be as likely to be new friend material anyway). It’s a pretty simple process… Water, $15 – $20 bucks worth of grain or malt and yeast and a big pot or two. Throw it all together (get some directions, or invite me to help. I’d be glad to tell you what to do) and in a few hours you have (essentially) beer. People are amazed by this. Really.
I think it might help to share a little bit of the last brew to really solidify interest.
To my point (which is not really about brewing, believe it, or not)… I think, at 40, I have met the most interesting people through affinity groups. People who have common interests doing those things together. For me it’s bicycling, brewing, disc golf and philosophy. Strangely, these four activities all have enough in common that you can do two or three at a time and it makes the experience that much better.
In the end, I thought the article was interesting. I am amazed that so many people over the age of 30 are lonely. To that I’d say, get a bike or brew some beer or join an exercise group. You gotta be a friend to make a friend and there aren’t many people sitting on your couch waiting for you to vegetate with them. You gotta get out in the world. Do something. Heck, throw a BBQ… you saw my soccer team post, right? (No? Well go read it…) There were 10 adults there that I’d never met before and they all seemed nice. Maybe even nice enough to take for a bike ride.
Get out of your comfort zone, doing something you like with someone you don’t necessarily know! If it’s fun, invite me. I might join you (especially if it would be fun for my wife and kids, the brewing doesn’t do much for them).
I almost forgot. I told you in my last post that I’d talk a little more about the garden. That post is ON DECK. See me here tomorrow for more on that topic.